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Steven Bartlett just gave some of the worst relationship advice I've ever heard…

And millions of people are going to follow it.

His advice for a sexless marriage?

"Stage a crisis. Tell her if we can't solve this, I have to leave."

That's not leadership. That's an ultimatum.

And ultimatums destroy relationships.

Look, I get it. Dead bedrooms are soul-crushing.

But threatening to leave if she doesn't have sex with you?

That's coercion, not communication.

Here's what actually works…

Instead of "Fix this or I'm gone"

Try: "I've been feeling disconnected from you lately. I miss our intimacy. How can we work together to rebuild that?"

See the difference?

One creates fear and pressure.

The other creates safety and collaboration.

When you sit beside your partner instead of across from them…

When you make it "us vs the problem" instead of "me vs you"...

That's when real change happens.

But threatening to leave because your needs aren't met?

That's just manipulation with better vocabulary.