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Getting diagnosed as autistic while pregnant with her third child, Jade made a powerful shift ā she started putting her needs first. As neurodivergent people, especially in the Autism community, it can feel uncomfortable or even guilt-inducing to set boundaries, especially with family. But honoring our needs is not selfish. It is essential.
When our needs are met, we are more present and grounded, both for ourselves and for those we care about. And here is the truth ā you are worthy of caring for yourself simply because you matter, not just because it helps you show up for others. Saying no to things like family lunches when you do not have the bandwidth is an act of self-respect, even if it feels hard in the moment.
Boundaries take practice, and yes, they can bring discomfort at first. But over time, they become a natural part of self-care for autistic and neurodivergent lives.
Visit my YouTube channel āMom On The Spectrumā to watch the full video and hear more boundary-setting insights for Autism and neurodivergent well-being.
What is one boundary you have set that changed your life for the better? Share it in the comments.
#adhd #autisticadults #autism #autismacceptance #neurodivergent #anxietyawareness
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When our needs are met, our gifts will flourish
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I needed to hear this. I struggle with making others feel uncomfortable when I need to accommodate myself sometimes. I think they don't understand why. They seem to think I changed when its just me having a voice now.
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People don't like it when you click on , and stop being there for them, because there never there for you, so you stop saying yes, and start saying NO
Am sorry I have always treated people how I always wanted to be treated.
But now I am in my 50s I treat people HOW THEY TREAT ME.
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I put myself first now. š
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I feel so much shame and guilt for putting my needs first. I think a lot of this stems from childhood trauma. Whenever I spoke up on whether I needed to leave a situation where I knew I could potentially have a meltdown, I got told off for it. If I struggled emotionally, I would get told off, or be forced to talk about what was bothering me when I didnāt want to talk about it. Because I knew what would happen. If I couldnāt find something, and I asked for help finding it, I would get told off. So now, I donāt speak up. I donāt ask for help. I deal with being hyper independent and stretch myself as thin as I can go. I tell myself, āI donāt need help. I donāt need support. Iām fine, Iām not upset, Iām not allowed to even get upset because nobody else is feeling upset, are they? I donāt need my accommodations. No, if I cry, then Iāll be seen as less.ā Iām a HUGE giver when it comes to others, but not enough, or sometimes not at all when it comes to myself.
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I am planning my wedding (he ADHD, me Autistic) and our goal is to put our comfort and needs first. It is so much arguing with the family and loved ones...
1) He is vegetarian. A veggie menu is hard to accept for some.
2) I want to split going to the council and the party with family and friends into 2 days to give me space and time to process and have as much energy for the events as possible. Many don't want to accept that...
3) We plan a small party and are not inviting cousins. It caused huge fight with the grandmas...
4) We are not inviting "+1" because we don't want strangers at our party - again causing fights.
5) No DJ, no music. The noise people make is already enough
Planning OUR wedding and accomodating OUR needs is so difficult...
Loved ones claim to "understand us" and "be there" but in the end they all only look after themselves and once we are doing it, which is resulting in a neurodivergent and not neurotypical wedding, we are the "bad guys" now...
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Just a reminder to all my mommy friendsā¦having boundaries isnāt mean or selfish itās a type of self care and self love. ā¤
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I truly believe that most major issues with which we deal, especially concerning others, are the result of unmet needs. Keeping that in mind allows us to not only meet our own needs first, but to recognize when others are having issues with unmet needs and help them along their own journeys. Much like the oxygen mask in an airplane, it's important for us to take care of ourselves first. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
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The same friend who convinced me that my son and I are autistic (both diagnosed in 2024) frequently uses the airplane oxygen mask metaphor: put your own mask on first, then you can be available to help others.
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Sooo true, I know and say this to my self since a long time, but still have trouble with accuratley applying it...š®ā
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Easier said than done if you have small childrenāor children at all, no matter what their ages are. If my kidsāor now grandkidsāneed anything, their needs will always come first, if itās possible to do. But then theyāre not overly demanding and unreasonable either. My sonās a single parent, and although his two girls are teenagers now, I help him out whenever I can, even if it means pushing myself a little. I absolutely hate phoning people, especially cold calling people I donāt know. But he works full time, so if he needs me to make appointments for the girls or call their schools, I do it. The other night, I had my younger granddaughter and she wanted to go to a trampoline park about 30 minutes from my house. It entailed freeway driving, which I hate even in the daytime, but it made her happy, she had a great time, so I just gritted my teeth and did it. But I also take down time when I sort of just veg out and do nothing but try to regroup. Even so, even if Iām in ārecovery mode,ā if one of my kids or grandkids needs me, Iām there, and Iāll fall into a burnt out stupor later. I could refuse and every one of them would understand, but that doesnāt feel right to me. Youāre right though, we canāt take care of others if we donāt take care of ourselves first. Itās just a matter of people finding what works best for them.
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Especially with family!
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It helps to have family who understand and are similar to you. Most of my family tend to be introverted anyway so they understand the too peopley issues even if they aren't necessarily on the spectrum.
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It does get better with practice.
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Great explaining. Definitely agree
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your mental well-being is unborn baby's healthy prego development. :)
so you can tell people you're caring for your unborn baby by taking time off for yourself. :)
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Thank you Taylor. This is extremely helpful ā¤
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Needs first i can understand but with a child who needs you to survive ? Idk
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@DrRobertStadler
2 weeks ago
Putting yourself first can be so hard even when you know you need to. It's just years of conditioning that you can't undo overnight. š¢
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