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Honestly, brief people when you set them up. Ask a friend 'are you interested in dating a transwoman who hasn't transitioned?'
You are setting people up on dates not setting people up for failure.
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the story aside, this comb is beautiful omg đ
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It's okay that masculine features aren't her cup of tea NTA for that. I even can say that it was a MASSIVE AH move on the part of the friend for just put them on together because "they're my two lesbian friends" without even ask further.
BUT because of the way it is written.... She's not transphobic because of not liking a trans woman everyone have likes and dislikes on possible partners: she's transfobic for the way she's talking about a trans woman, and even the way she talks about the gay community as a whole is quite strange, "I'm not like them" kind of thing.
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Nta for having a preference but def ta for blatantly misgendering her and deriding her for not being 'far along enough' in her transition. What, does she think trans people wake up one morning and sailor moon transform into their transition goals instantly??
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Eh, I think everyone sucks here. Well, except the date. She was kind of an innocent third party. OP, however, was disrespectful to said date in how she spoke about her after the fact. It's perfectly okay to have preferences, but don't tear someone down and disrespect them behind their back. OP's friend is kind of a booty hole too, though, because who sets someone up on a date without asking their preferences? Like, you'd think it would be common sense if she knows she's a lesbian to ask, "Hey, how would you feel about going on a date with a M2F transgender friend of mine?" Like, how hard would that be? Then again, I'm Demi so I might not have the best understanding of this situation, so take what I say with a shaker of salt.
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the only thing wrong about this is calling her a man in a dress and continuing to misgender her just based on her appearance. you're allowed to have preferences, you're just not allowed to be mean to people because of them
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As a trans man It is perfectly fine for you not to ever want to date. A trans person that's acceptable it is your preference However
The transphobic part comes in when you purposely misgender them just because they haven't transitioned, yet doesn't mean that they aren't a woman
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NTA for not wanting to date a trans woman, but an asshole for purposely misgendering them imo. it doesnât take that much effort to be curteous, especially because this story was obviously written out and not speaking off the cuff. the rhetoric reads slightly TERF-ish :/
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you can date whoever you want, just be respectful! if someone says theyâre a woman, they are. you donât even have to understand to be respectful (although doing some research is always a good idea!)
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Yes, they're the AH. There's nothing wrong with saying you're not attracted to someone and not give a specific reason - your tastes are your tastes. Doesn't mean that person is a man.
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Calling a trans woman a man just because they werenât to your standards of feminine is the issue here. No one is saying you have to date trans people, but calling her a man if she really is a trans woman is outwardly rude. Some people are in the early stages of their transition so they may look more masculine.
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I'm going to be completely honest. I was looking at that hair pick. I forgot you were doing storytimeđ
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Personally, as a college student who just took a gender culture class, itâs important that you remind yourself that itâs not up to you to decide how someone else feels comfortable in their own skin, if they wanna be perceived as a man in a dress socially Iâm sure they get plenty of shit for it and the way you react can make all the difference, in one of my art classes I do remember there was someone like this and it wasnât a big deal to just use she pronouns and call her by her chosen name I actually just saw her today and she waved at me I guess I delivered some food to her neighbor. I understand this is a completely different situation because dating has a sexualized aspect to it or it can but it also doesnât have to and as much as a lot of people would naturally feel uncomfortable in that situation itâs mostly from how socially we have experienced things in society and itâs ok to admit something makes you uncomfortable or that youâre not ready to explore certain aspects of relations with anyone without a vagina and to have the maturity to keep yourself in check and a knowledge that you could offend someone in the process of expressing how you feel and that itâs ok to make mistakes as long as youâre there to try and make up for it too.
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I am a woman, and bi as well, I don't see how this person is an asshole. They just have a preference, and that's totally okay. I don't understand why people automatically opt to "you're being transphobic." They acknowledged their support, and they also stated their sexuality/feelings on the matter. That's okay, and she was clearly uncomfortable because of her sexuality/preference. I really don't see a problem here. I have my own preferences as well, just like anyone. I personally have a preference for biological men and women, that's not a bad thing. That doesnt make me homophobic or transphobic, that just means I have a preference. It's just what I'm attracted to as that's what I have always liked. There should not be shame in someone's romantic or sexual preferences. That is what I would call discrimination, judging someone else's preference in gender, sexuality, etc.
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Unpopular opinion, not the AH. If they are lesbian and that person isn't feminine people "woman like" they aren't going to fall for them. I don't think they are the AH
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Let them do them. You do you.
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There's nothing wrong with you not wanting to date her. But there is also nothing wrong with HER using feminine pronouns, no matter if you think SHE looks like a girl or not.
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As a gender-fluid, gender is who you are on the inside. Itâs up to you if you want to physically transition or not, I myself look quite feminine, but I lean towards masculine pronouns, it doesnât bother me. I get that thatâs not the case for some and I have a trans friend who deals with a lot of body dysphoria. I understand not wanting to date someone whoâs trans, but purposefully misgendering someone is just horrible, and since she is part of the community, I would expect her to be respectful. Some days she/her pronouns make me very uncomfortable, and SHE probably would feel the same way if SHE knew how this person was addressing her
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YTA, not for the reason, but for how OP talked about the date
Its okay to have preferences, it really is, and maybe they simply weren't compatible. But, OP has a GROSS misunderstanding of how difficult and long transitioning can be. Just because you aren't able to fully transition at the time doesn't mean you aren't trans, and OP doesn't seem to realize/care. That is what makes them the AH. The way OP talked about his date. I feel bad for the poor girl when it gets back to her.
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@lucs1199
8 months ago
The second you asked the question as someone who is trans, no. Itâs not wrong just like how I donât like fem men. Preferences are preferences. I donât understand why people demonize others for not being attracted to certain things. If you claim you canât help being gay/attracted to who youâre attracted to why canât others do the same?
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