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Date of upload: Apr 26, 2024 ^^
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You're wrong here... they have a legal agreement. He could have changed the arrangements to a day he had her. He has no right to take her without speaking to the parent who's responsible for her on HER designated days. He could have offered her a compromise. Instead, he went behind her back. This is malicious. Period.
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As a married mom to the father of my kids, dad was wrong. Plain and simple.
Theres custody arrangements for good reasons. If you want to exchange days, thats great. Honestly.
But a mom is NOT OBLIGATED to agree to giving up her own time because of a birthday. Especially if the exs are on bad terms.
The father is WRONG for taking her out of school.
This mom has EVERY RIGHT to pick her daughter up and angry.
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While I can kind of get her point, I mean, in a way he did kind of kidnap his own daughter (mom was supposed to collect her, but he did), I think they are both in the wrong (she's more in the wrong though).
You don't need to celebrate a birthday on the day. He and the daughter could have celebrated it when it was his time to have her.
Involving the daughter was a bit manipulative, but she's also 15 so she should have a say.
I'm also wondering if it was reversed (dads time, moms birthday), would he have been ok with letting her have her for a bit to celebrate? That's my main thing that I want to know.
I think that the mom might view it as him "stealing" extra time with the daughter.
But yeah, disrespect from both sides.
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The dad actually needs to be careful about taking the daughter when the mom explicitly says no. (This is not me agreeing with what happened at all!) In some states this can be counted against him in different ways. Police being called because of "kidnapping", reason to make it visitation, etc (my mom was... Vindictive to say the least during my parents divorce) if I was the dad id seek more time. Wifes the AH and reminds me of my mom. Godbless
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As a mom who shared custody I think the mom could have been a little more lenient and allowed her to attend the party; especially considering her daughter wanted to go. The father did ask before he broke a big time no-no of split custody. He technically kidnapped his daughter and the mom could have pressed charges. They are both the AH here. My ex pulled some bs and tried keeping our son after his time ran out over the summer. The judge said if he hadn't filed a specific form within the 12 hr when he did he would have been in prison for kidnapping. I got my son back after a big court battle (all because my ex was jealous of me getting a bigger house). We ended up right back to the same agreement we originally had. Now 13 years later and we are friends. You set your own bs aside when it comes to the health and happiness of your kids. Too many people out there still fighting like you're still married, being all petty and making your kids miserable in the process. My ex and I worked together after his initial bs and our son grew up great even with us being divorced. We worked together to raise him well in all aspects of life(he is now 20). I can see this young lady growing up to resent her mother for her actions. My parents were also divorced, my mother was like her. I don't talk to her and my older brother rarely does either.
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A custody order is just that, an order from a judge. It is legally binding until a different one is put into place. The mother was a little too harsh to the kid, but the dad committed a crime and had the daughter be a willing participant but without all the information, and the mother should have called the police and filed charges against him. The father intentionally doing it like that causes more trauma to the child, and he knew it. "Kids" understand just fine how to manipulate, and they know right from wrong unless they are actually tiny humans(toddlers). The kid should get punished for helping her father commit a felony. It should be explained to her in explicit detail what can and will happen if legal custody orders are not followed, but it needs to be an appropriate punishment, not just yelling.
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There is a custody agreement in place for a reason - they cannot co-parent civilly and no one is respecting boundaries. He asked her and she said no - he should have respected that. Just because its his birthday doesn't mean she has to say yes. She probably had other good reasons to say no. He also could have waited until his next day with his daughter to celebrate his birthday with his family. It didn't have to be on his actual birthday. He even went so far as to take her from school and she went crazy trying to track them down. Not only that - he set her up to look bad in front of all his family. I am glad she is no longer with him. She should have just called the police!!! That would have been an appropriate birthday present for him. Their kid is going to need some serious counseling if she cannot see who is really in the wrong here.
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@spricket24
2 months ago
If there is a custody order in place, then legally he cannot just pick her up- that is called "Parental Kidnapping" and it's a crime and he could lose custody or worse go to jail had she called the police. If it was not his day then it does not matter if it is his bday or not -he committed a felony and involved the daughter in it. But where she went wrong was punish the kid... that's not her fault.
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