Never feeling good enough is a good summary of how I've always felt about myself for the last 41 years. Thankfully, in year 42 of my life, I have finally been coached to rewire my brain for Confidence 201, by looking backwards and not forward, which is very counterintuitive for most ambitious high achievers.

It is counterintuitive to look backwards instead of looking forward, because we were only able to get to where we are today but looking forward, by setting ambitious goals and working hard to hit those goals. This is Confidence 101.

This is when I realized I was stuck in "Confidence 101" - a mindset where I:
• Constantly measure myself against future goals.
• Focus on the gap between where I am and I want to be.
• Downplay my achievements in pursuit of the next bigger goal.

Confidence 101 is based on putting ourselves in the gap. It worked until it didn't work!!

It stopped working when my goals became too "big" for my wellbeing.

I always felt like I was in the gap. I was never good enough. As soon as I achieved my goal, I am in the gap all over again, comparing myself with those that "achieved more."

Thankfully, I was coached on a more effective way... Confidence 201, where we can actually achieve WAY MORE by looking backwards in order to move forward even FASTER than before, and with more EASE.

When you look backwards and
• Celebrate every small win.
• Recognize how far you've come.
• Shift your focus from perfection to progress.

This is when you build the resilience to:
• Take even bigger and bolder steps, even in uncertainty.
• Overcome self-doubt, even in uncertainty.
• Feel at ease, even in uncertainty.

The result of having greater resilience even in uncertainty?
• Improved self-perception
• Confidence to tackle any challenge with MORE EASE instead of self-doubt.

Question for you: Which version of confidence are you operating in right now?

#confidence #leadership

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