PokeVideoPlayer v23.9-app.js-020924_
0143ab93_videojs8_1563605_YT_2d24ba15 licensed under gpl3-or-later
Views : 60,326
Genre: Education
License: Standard YouTube License
Uploaded At Jul 9, 2024 ^^
warning: returnyoutubedislikes may not be accurate, this is just an estiment ehe :3
Rating : 4.986 (20/5,789 LTDR)
99.66% of the users lieked the video!!
0.34% of the users dislieked the video!!
User score: 99.49- Masterpiece Video
RYD date created : 2024-10-31T00:12:43.287123Z
See in json
Top Comments of this video!! :3
TW: mentions of SH.
This is a vent.
I have a huge problem with saying no, or just expressing I need time alone. I feel like a people pleaser and therapist friend. Iām the one friend in my group that my friends feel they can talk to, and I love that Iām seen by my friends as that, but sometimes I have my own problems, and Iām sorry, but I donāt feel like listening to yours..
That whole sentence, or just saying no in general, makes me feel so selfish. Thatās why I have a problem with boundaries, cause I feel guilty if I express them.
I often feel overwhelmed by these feelings of guilt. Causing mental drainage. And the problem is, I often feel I have no one to talk to about my mental health, no one to vent to without feeling like Iām being annoying or being a burden. So I donāt. I keep those feelings bottled up until the jar overflows and I have a huge mental breakdown, usually leading to relapsing of self harm. Iāve been clean for about 4 weeks now, but every now and then it takes a lot to resist.
I would usually say ābut Iām feeling better now!ā When I vent to someone, but thats rarely / never the case. I havenāt felt better in months. Iāve never even told my girlfriend about this. (Iām a girl btw) I tell her almost everything.
Donāt say āget therapyā IVE HAD THERAPY BEFORE, I DIDNT TELL HER SHIT. NOTHING. NADA. AFTER I VENTED TO HER ONCE, IT WASNT EVEN A BAD ONE, JUST GETTING BULLIED AT SCHOOL. AFTER THAT, SHE SAID āso, if you ran away, where would you go?ā IM NOT FUCKING DUMB. After that session my parents had a talk to me about getting bullied. My therapist told them, so I never trusted her after that.
(Iām sorry if none of this made sense or made me look like a selfish bitch :< )
1 |
I tell my boundaries and theyāre soooo hard to deal with absolutely no one has respected them- when all you ask is āPlease do not scream at me and please donāt curse me outā why is that the first thing that they do š¤·š¼āāļø it shows their maturity level when itās 100% about them yer not dealing with an adult but a spoiled brat who has the mindset of a teen.. huge difference between life smarts and book smarts one means nothing in a relationship
3 |
So I guess when I text what used to be a good friend, and they donāt reply until a month later and cause me to worry that theyāre lying in a hospital bed or some big tragedy happened, that itās not a sign of distance but that theyāre just nurturing a respectful relationship. And theyāre doing that by the means of using the tactic of ignoring. Reality is itās often a sign of distance, whether they speak up about it or use ignoring, either way itās distance and that friendship is going downhill.
4 |
I remember how my friend thought I was playing ātagā and they touched me on the shoulder and it felt like she touched me to hard and this happened again on a different day or month but I was trying to ask my teacher something where to put my math worksheet I had to hand in and she was on the computer as a old friend of mine who Iām not friends anymore with and she was with her friend as one of them tagged me like it was the cheese touch(mostly what happened but it still bothers me) and I felt one of them touch my shoulder or back before running back to where they were and I felt like cryingā¦
But they donāt do that anymore, so Iām fine
22 |
@Psych2go
4 months ago
Feeling overwhelmed? Setting boundaries can be a powerful tool for managing your time and energy. We have a video with some helpful tips ā be sure to check it out!
71 |