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Top Comments of this video!! :3
I'll take it one step further. My aunt used to say, "Don't tell 'like' stories." Because when you do, it can always look like you're trying to one up the other person. Listen to their story and save yours for another time.
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We call it 2 sheds,
"I got a shed"
"I got 2 sheds"
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Fuck I am like this and itâs completely unintentional. I just feel like Iâm trying to stay on the topic that you brought up
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Omg we used to call a friend in our group a âtopperâ all of the time. He did that with literally each thing someone would tell him m, so much so that it was actually a game for us to get him to start toppinâ off.
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Best fix seems to be don't add your level to it.
"Man I got stuck on the tarmac too and it definitely sucked"
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If you go on holiday to Tenerife, they go to Eleven-erife.
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I usually only use the I relate method when my experience wasn't as bad or good as theirs. So they say "I spent 3 hours waiting for X it was horrible." I might say "Yikes! I once had to wait for 1 hour for X to happen so I can't imagine how rough it was to wait for 3 hours! I'm so sorry that happened to you but I'm glad your such a trooper and not letting that ruin your day"
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Be a power bottom instead
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Itâs hard when you have autism, itâs not trying to top anyone, itâs just trying to relate with a similar story but telling the truth.
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This can b hard with my ADHD. I just try to relate back my experience and sometimes can b misunderstood. My way of feeling close to people saying I understand what you're going through because of this similar experience
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This is something I do and it's because lots of people do it like it's normal, it's just conversation
But, I spoke with a friend from another country and did this and they were like "uh
.. So why did you tell me that"
And when I had to sit and think about it real time I realized how ridiculous it is. Talking about ourselves just to "show that we relate" but not adding any valuable message or solution or insight.. What
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This is a perfect example of bad over-sensitivity. If you are so emotionally fragile to think the other person is trying to overtake you, then you are going to be overtaken a lot in life.
More importantly, it depends on prior context and can easily be resolved if you are really that worried by redirecting the conversation back to them anyway.
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Say what you want, if the people are your friends they'll let you know but will still be your friend and understand its just the way you are if its unintentional, i think....
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What unmet need is being courted by these exchanges? I usually notice quickly which people I interact with are of this persuasion. Primarily because it irritates the mess out of me and knowing which directions theyâre likely to come from helps me keep conversations brief and information oriented.
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The Elverife guy. âOh you just got back from Tenerife..?â
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I don't mind people telling their story in an attempt to relate, but I check out real fast when it feels like it's become a competition of whose life is more miserable... I have absolutely no desire to compete in or win that game.
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That's one way to look at it. Knowing about someone else's worse experience than your's could lead to you suddenly feeling better that your experience wasn't that bad at least.
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My trick to avoid this is to tell a story but leave out my feelings towards the end of lessen my experience. I bring things up as "I understand how that feels, i had a similar experience..." And go from there. Then relate that back to them. Give them the floor again
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This man continues to have the wisdom of a fortune cookie
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@TribeOfCooks
1 month ago
Donât be a topper, be a bottomer, got it.
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