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You told yourself you wanted casual.
No drama. No strings.

But from the start, you gave her all your free time —
It began as a committed relationship, and it’s been one all along.

Casual means options.
Exclusive means monogamy.
It can’t be both.

By choosing a consistent weekly schedule with her
and closing off every other option — including us —
you weren’t living casual.
You chose monogamy.

Looking back on it now…
would you have chosen the one you felt passion for? 💥
Or this one — where there never was a flame?

Either way, you’d be in a relationship.
The difference is: one fuels your fire,
and the other drains it.

I remember when you said,
“Let’s see where this goes.”
I agreed and opened that door to you.
But you never walked through it.

Almost straight away,
you gave your time to someone else,
leaving no room for us to explore
and see where this would go.

And that choice was the start of the long-term relationship you created with her.
Not from passion or fire —
but because you thought you were choosing convenience,
something for nothing.

But the predictability made it more than casual.
Week after week, the same routine.
It didn’t matter that you didn’t stay overnight —
you’d already stepped into the role.

By giving her all your free time,
you’d already consented to being her boyfriend.
She built her life around that,
and you let it happen.

If you had given your time to us, even just once a week,
it could have been alive, exciting, and fiery —
not because it was new or novel,
but because it was real. 🔥

The fire was real.
And the flame would have only continued to burn,
instead of fizzling out the way it does
when the novelty fades with someone new.

But that was your choice.

Did it ever occur to you that we could have had both —
fire and the stability of a weekly date night?
One fuels your fire, makes you brighter, more alive.

The other — easy — fills your time with mechanical, stale convenience,
weighing you down with unspoken expectations,
and shutting the door on something real, something passionate.

This path only gets worse,
because you’re playing the part of her boyfriend
without ever choosing her with your heart.

Easy may look like freedom,
but it’s just roleplay —
and the fallout is inevitable once she sees through the act.

The truth is simpler:
when two people choose each other with the same fire, it flows.
Pretending only gets heavier
as the months and years slip by.

One simple decision is all it takes
to pivot away from the path you’re on
toward a future you never consciously chose.

Because right now, it isn’t you choosing.
It’s her claiming you.

And with the holidays coming, the pressure will only build.
Halloween, Christmas, New Year’s, Valentine’s —
each one pulling you deeper into a role
you never agreed to play.

It’s never too late to stop
and choose yourself.

Your body will always tell you the truth.
It can’t help but feel alive and feel joy
when you’re choosing the paths that light you up.

And living by that truth
is what keeps the fire burning.

And maybe that flame between us
still burns regardless of our choices.
Maybe one day we’ll find our way back,

but that only happens if we both choose it.

This letter clears the air for me.
I’ve said all I need to say.
If we ever see each other again,
I won’t bring up the past or question your choices —

no rehashing, no drama —
just the chance for a fresh start.

That moment of magic ✨ where our spark ignited into an undeniable flame is something I’ll never forget.

And if the time comes when you’re ready,
and I’m ready,
perhaps we'll find our way back…
toward the flame.

The choice is yours.

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