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Here’s the biggest mistake after divorce: Not setting boundaries. And here’s why it’s holding you back from healing:
1. You don’t need to control your ex.
Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out—they’re about protecting your peace.
2. Every time you let the chaos in, you’re giving up your emotional space.
The power comes from choosing what gets your attention.
3. It’s not about making things perfect.
It’s about creating enough space for you to heal and thrive.
So how do you do that?
1. Personal space: Stop engaging in unnecessary interactions.
2. Communication: Keep it calm—don’t let things escalate.
3. Finances: Keep it to the essentials, especially during mediation.
4. Kids: Focus when you’re with them—give them your full attention.
5. Self-care: Take time to recharge when things get overwhelming.
Remember, boundaries are your blueprint for healing. They’re not about cutting people off—they’re about creating the space you need to become whole again.
It’s a process, but every small step you take is a step toward reclaiming your peace.
What’s one small boundary you can set today to begin protecting your emotional space?
Ready to reclaim your peace and heal faster?
Join my free masterclass to learn how.
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Anger is a secondary emotion. It shows up when we feel threatened, betrayed, or deeply hurt. It can be a temporary shield—helping us keep going when everything else falls apart. In the midst of intolerable pain, anger can give us the strength to move forward, like a lifeline.
But just like a tourniquet, anger is meant to be used temporarily. Holding onto it too long is exhausting. It weighs you down, clouds your judgment and prevents you from healing. It keeps you stuck in the past, preventing you from moving towards future success and happiness.
The ultimate ‘revenge’ is your success—your ability to rise, to be happy, and to thrive. Healing happens when you let go of anger and face the pain beneath it. By acknowledging it, understanding it, and then releasing it, you begin to steer your life in the direction you want to go.
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What's the toughest part of life after divorce for you?
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After a divorce, it’s natural to point fingers, to ask 'why did this happen to me?' The brain wants to blame your ex for the pain, the mistakes, the heartbreak. But staying stuck in blame keeps you locked in the past. It’s a chain that prevents you from moving forward.
Instead, try shifting the focus from blame to contribution. Not just in terms of what you contributed to the relationship, but also what you can learn from it. What was your role in the dynamic? What positive lessons have you gained from the experience? This shift isn’t about taking on guilt or responsibility for the relationship's failure but rather understanding how you can grow from it.
This is one of the most empowering exercises you can do. By shifting the narrative from blame to contribution, you begin to take control. You take back your power, and instead of feeling victimized, you start to see the opportunities for growth that are hidden within the pain.
It’s not about excusing what happened or pretending everything was fine. It’s about owning your part in the story and using it to create a stronger, more resilient version of yourself.
👉 Want to learn how to make the shift from blame to contribution and find healing? Join my free masterclass: resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/masterclass-reg…
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For some people, after the pain of divorce, the most powerful act of self-care is to slow down. It's so easy to get caught up in a cycle of trying to fix the hurt or keep moving forward as if nothing happened, but real healing requires you to slow down and deal with the painful emotions and ruminating thoughts.
This can also be terrifying. For many of my clients being alone with themselves, alone with the shame, guilt, regret and despair, is intolerable. That's why having a community to support you and a step by step roadmap for effectively processing these feelings and quieting the aggressive thoughts is essential. With the right tools and support, you can learn to feel good alone and with others.
Remember, healing isn’t a race, and there’s no rush to ‘move on’ or find someone new. Doing so too soon can actually distract you from the internal work that you need to do if you don't want to repeat the negative cycles that led to your divorce. This is a time to learn to love yourself, to understand yourself, and to give yourself the compassion you deserve.
👉 Ready to learn how to stop the painful emotional rollercoaster and quiet the ruminating thoughts? Join my free masterclass for supportive, guided steps toward reclaiming your life: resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/masterclass-reg…
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You’re living inside the pain. Every day you feel the sharp bite of betrayal, the endless heartache of a broken marriage, and you’re wondering how (and if) you can move forward from the damage. When the pain is that deep, sometimes revenge feels like the answer—but true revenge, the most powerful form of it, is your happiness and success.
When you’ve been wronged, it can be easy to get caught in the cycle of wanting to make your ex wife feel what you’ve felt. For some people this can become almost an obsession, with ruminating thoughts so strong you can almost believe that making her truly understand would take away some of the pain you feel. But on some level you know that even that wouldn't erase what has happened or stop your pain.
You have to shift the focus back to yourself if you truly want the emotional agony to stop. This doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine or rushing through your healing. It means putting in the work, asking yourself hard questions, taking responsibility for your mistakes, finding your own purpose and identity, and walking forward with confidence. Letting go of the past isn't just about moving on; it's about creating and owning the life you want.
Success is your best form of revenge. Show the world, show your ex wife, that you are not defined by your circumstances or even your past actions, but by your response and what you do next. Your happiness and success will be the statement that speaks louder than any revenge ever could.
If you're ready to reclaim your happiness and success, join my free masterclass where I’ll guide you through how to heal and move forward: resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/masterclass-reg…
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💔 Why We’re Taught to Suppress Our Emotions 💔
From an early age, many children, especially little boys, are taught that emotions should be controlled or hidden. They learn that expressing anger, frustration, or sadness is wrong. They're put in time out, or told to "calm down" and even to "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about". The message you internalize as a child is clear: emotions are something to be "fixed", controlled or buried.
But what if what you've been taught about emotions is all wrong? What if, instead of hiding them, learning to feel them safely without getting hijacked by them is actually the key to healing?
In childhood, most of us were expected to "self-soothe" by shutting down our emotions. And as we grow older, these habits of emotional suppression follow us into adulthood. It’s when we face big wake-up calls—like divorce or major life changes—that we begin to question everything we've been taught about our emotions and relationships.
It’s not your fault that you were taught to bottle up your feelings. But now, you have the power to change your relationship with your emotions. By learning how to process and feel your emotions—without shame or guilt—you can stop getting stuck in despair, hopelessness and apathy.
💬 What emotion have you been taught to suppress? How has it affected your life? Share your thoughts below.
👉 Want to learn more about recovering from an unwanted divorce and emotional regulation? Join my free masterclass: resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/masterclass-reg…
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Divorce can force you to confront deep wounds—many of which stem from generational trauma that you never even noticed, because shutting down, lashing out or coping by throwing yourself in hard work seemed so normal in your family. If you can begin to look at your upbringing with curiosity, it will become clear how the emotional patterns of your parents, the ways in which they gave and received love and coped with conflict, shaped your adult relationships. Once you see these patterns, you can start to change them. By seeking understanding you create the possibility of healing.
For generations, relationship damaging coping mechanisms were passed down without the knowledge or tools to heal it. But today, with the tools of emotional regulation and self-awareness, we have the power to learn new ways of communicating and connecting. The past doesn’t have to define your future.
Healing is a process—so don’t carry guilt or regret for what you didn’t know and couldn't know sooner. Start today—what you do today will determine where you are tomorrow.
💬 What emotional pattern are you ready to break? Take the next step toward healing and transformation.
👉 Join my free masterclass and start rewiring your default coping mechanisms.
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👉 Click here to watch this video for more on healing from generational trauma in divorce: https://youtu.be/goTzTs6dsv4
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💔 Breaking the Cycle of Suppression 💔
Many of us were never taught how to manage our emotions properly. As children, we were taught to suppress our feelings, and as adults, we often continue that cycle without even realizing it. Whether it’s anger, sadness, or frustration, many of us were taught that emotions were something to be hidden or controlled.
This cycle of emotional suppression is damaging—especially when it comes to divorce. We feel shame for our pain instead of processing it. But today, we have access to knowledge that can change this pattern. It’s time to break free and learn the skills to process emotions in a healthy way.
It’s never too late to start learning these skills.
💬 Have you noticed emotional suppression in your life? Let’s discuss in the comments.
👉 Take the first step toward healing and reclaiming control. Join my FREE Masterclass today:
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If I hold a weekly or bi-monthly live Q & A session here on YouTube, would you come?
I did an impromptu session today and had great feedback, and some folks asking for more sessions with more advance notice. Is this something you'd like to see me add to the channel?
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This channel is a resource for men in any stage of separation or divorce. You'll find these videos helpful if you want to:
- Have good times with your kids. Be in a healthy and fulfilling relationship with a woman. Don’t take things personally. Advocate for yourself and set clear boundaries with others.
- Regain your optimism, enjoy every day and actually look forward to dating and another relationship instead of wondering if it, too, will end.
- Be free from your negative thoughts. Feel connected to yourself and others in a meaningful way. Feel confident to be alone or with others.
- Have more energy and focus at work. Go through the day not thinking or worrying about your ex. Feel like you belong in the world again.
- Stop thinking about your marriage all the time. Have neutral feelings towards your ex-wife and wish her the best. Co-parent in a spirit of cooperation and mutual respect. Date new women without fear, shame or expecting rejection.
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