Welcoem to posts!!
in the future - u will be able to do some more stuff here,,,!! like pat catgirl- i mean um yeah... for now u can only see others's posts :c
Iām on a podcast! Talking the biggest mistakes ADHD-ers make, surprising hacks that ACTUALLY work, good vs bad advice from experts, and more!
Hosted by registered psychologist Dante from āŖ@DantePsychologyā¬ !
As someone who specializes in ADHD and autism, he shared some REALLY interesting insights from his therapy practice! AndĀ I shared some of my coaching process, stories and favorite practicesāthe banter was great!
He's an incredible therapist, dog dad and certified nice guy! Youāll love him. š
Thank you for having me, Dante!
Watch here šš»
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Please donāt trust experts just because they are experts, guys. Half of my fingers got burned today apart from the two tiny warts this doctor was targeting. And she still thought I would payā¦ š¤
This morning I was trying to answer the question āWhat should mental health experts know about people with ADHD?ā and this was my first thought:
They should know that we trust them A LOT and be incredibly careful with that.
Many of us have never even spoken to someone who acknowledges ADHD, let alone wants to help us.
Many of us are still doubting themselves.
Many are afraid of medication.
And these people get like an hour to put that all to rest and answer our questions, or make it so much worse.
Any well-meaning, but neurotypical-based advice that doesnāt end up working can make things worse.
Any unresearched and unthought-about answer can make things worse.
Iāve heard many a bad advice given to people by general mental health experts who didnāt have the ADHD knowledge offā the top of their heads and didnāt bother to check if they were right.
And I could write a book about all the doctors that have given bad advice to me. š
Just a few months ago a gynaecologist lied to me that getting the pill was the only way to deal with my hormonal acne. I corrected her and she still argued with me until she checked it.
She was willing to give me this hugely life changing medication without even checking for options. Even when I told her! And it turned out I donāt even have hormonal acne anywayā¦
So yeahā¦ this was in Germany.
So was the finger burning. š
Nowhere is safe, because this is a people problem.
Experts become overconfident and we become way too trusting.
So please be careful, do your own research, advocate for yourself, and ask for a second opinion. You are your #1 friend and I never want these things to happen to you. ā¤ļø
Iām bummed out that I didnāt make this lady stop sooner. Donāt make my mistake!
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Sometimes I fantasise about moving back to Bulgariaā¦ Then I remember that Vyvanse is illegal back home and I donāt want to live without meds again. š„²
So I Google to see if thereās been any updatesā¦ and find a bunch of Reddit threads where random āexpertsā claim that stopping your meds could kill you, ADHD is a disease made up by America, and everyone in the west is on speed. š
They say getting diagnosed takes 30 minutes of saying āI canāt focus at workāā¦ and people actually believe that.
Tons of upvotes! š
Dude. It takes years of waiting, 1000x questionnaires, and overcoming all of your self-judgement! And then thereās still the shortages and all the other BS!
My heart breaks for those of us that canāt receive help and treatment because of such blatant misinformation and stigma. We could help so many kids grow up with far less struggle, but instead we call them lazy, blame them, and let them self-medicateā¦
So I guess Iām really grateful I spent like 6 months preparing the Huberman video. Those guys on reddit were quoting exactly such scientists and Netflix documentaries, without ever reading their actual sources. (not that they cite many)
Anyway, it was time well-spent. Thank you for watching it, send it to a friend! š¤·āāļø
Maybe one day my platform will be big enough to make real changes for the people back home, but until then I feel for everyone that lives in such situations and cannot get diagnosed, cannot get medication or therapy, and cannot even get understanding for the struggles they are suffering through.
Iām so sorry you have to go through that alone. ā¤ļø
Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
PS: ADHD IS diagnosed in Bulgaria, but itās very rare and mostly for kids. Thereās also some medication options but the choice is tiny.
Most people are advised to ātry harderā.
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Do you struggle to sit ānormallyā, back straight and both feet on the floor? š¤
I want to make a video about this so bad, but IDK if you guys care. Please help! š«
Some things I'd like to discuss are:
- how sitting norms affect us at school, work, and home
- why TF this became such a societal norm
- how struggling to sit on classic chairs is affecting our health
- what our alternatives are
Bonus!
If you DO want to see that video - please suggest titles! I have no idea what would fit.
I thought "The societal implications of "sitting normally"" or something like that, but it needs to include ADHD somehow too... Ideas are welcome! ā¤ļø
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You ever sign up for something, completely forget about it, and thenāBOOMāget hit with a surprise charge? š
Thatās the ADHD tax.
Recently, I almost had to pay over $100 for a service I stopped using six months ago because I forgot to cancel right away. They didnāt even remind me that my subscription was renewing!
Luckily, in Europe, companies are required to send you a reminder before renewing a service. Since they didnāt, I was able to ask for a refund, and it worked! šĀ But if youāre in the US, you might not be so lucky. A lot of companies donāt consider forgetting to cancel a valid reason to refund you.
So hereās my advice:
1ļøā£ If youāre testing a service, always choose the monthly option even if itās more expensive. Youāre not locked in for a year that way.
2ļøā£ As soon as you sign up, cancel right after. You can always re-subscribe if you like it, but at least youāre safe from unwanted charges. š§
Letās stop paying for stuff we donāt use!
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Are ADHD-ers more stressed than neurotypical people? I think so. What's your experience?
Here's why this happens:
#1 Many things are harder for us. That causes us to have delays, struggles, motivational hurdles, etc.
#2 We also know this is going to happen and evaluate future tasks as scary and dreadful preemptively, which adds to the stress.
#3 We struggle with the planning and executive function needed to resolve these situations.
#4 We spend so much time battling these symptoms that we don't have much time left to care for ourselves and decompress.
#5 We get so caught up in everything that we often forget to check in until it's too late and we're drowning in stress.
It's just my theory, but I'd love to hear your take!
One study I read said that ADHD-ers are more stressed due to struggling with ADHD symptoms (makes sense) and suggested "accepting help from others, practising acceptance, settling down and controlling oneself, and planning in advance".
Now, does that always work? No.
Assuming that active self-control and executive function will always be helpful for ADHD-ers is like assuming that they won't always have ADHD. It's ableist.
But hey, when it works, it's a handy tool.
Personally, I'm all about preventative measures that don't rely on executive function.
You can read the study here: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31613179/
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Don't understand what someone is saying right away?Ā You hear their words, but you don't know what they mean?
You might have auditory processing disorder (APD) - a condition that affects the brain's ability to process auditory information effectively.
Symptoms include:
- Difficulty understanding speech, especially in noisy environments.
- Trouble following directions, especially multi-step directions.
- Struggling to distinguish between similar sounds or words.
- Problems with phonological awareness, which can affect reading and spelling skills.
- Difficulty with auditory memory tasks, such as remembering a sequence of instructions or sounds.
... Or you might NOT have APD, and "just" have normal ADHD problems. š¤
So let's add some nuance to this discussion, because I've seen lots of shorts and videos about it and none of them listed all the symptoms or really any scientific literature at all.
Here's the thing:
ADHD-ers problems with working memory, attentional control, processing speed, and integration of sensory inputs can often present as APD.
But the difference is they are situational.
The more cognitive load you put on an ADHD-er, the less capacity they will have to process any kind of other inputs - be it auditory or otherwise.
Think of working on something when someone comes in to ask you what you want for dinner. What did they say? If you are focused on your work and have a billion thoughts, those new inputs might fail to process.
But also, think of sitting on the couch, not doing much of anything, and hearing the same question. Would it be easier to answer?
Does it depend on your cognitive load?
Then it might not be APD.
A lot of the shorts and videos demonstrating this processing problem feature a person interrupting an ADHD-er who is in the middle of something and speaking to them. The ADHD-er hears them, but they're not sure what their words meant, so they're confused.
So do they have APD? Maybe. But maybe not.
Just wanted to add some nuance.
Here's a study on the processing speed of ADHD-ers compared to their current cognitive load: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6996017/
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