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Professor RJ Starr, Host of "The Psychology of Us"
Posted 4 days ago

Let’s talk about emotional competence.

Not just "emotional intelligence"—not just knowing what emotions are—but the ability to actually understand, express, and regulate them in a way that makes life smoother, relationships richer, and challenges easier to navigate.

Emotional competence isn’t about avoiding feelings or pretending we don’t have them. It’s about recognizing them, sitting with them, and choosing what to do with them. It’s the difference between reacting in anger and pausing to understand why something hurt. It’s knowing when to speak, when to listen, and when to step away.

It’s also about empathy—being able to read the room, to recognize when someone else is struggling, and to respond in a way that fosters connection instead of division. The most emotionally competent people aren’t the ones who never feel anything deeply. They’re the ones who have learned how to navigate emotions with grace.

And the good news? It’s a skill. Not something you’re born with or without, but something you can develop. Through self-awareness. Through practice. Through learning to pause before reacting. Through allowing space for emotions without letting them control you.

So, as you move through your day, I invite you to notice how you engage with emotions—yours and others’. Do you acknowledge them? Dismiss them? React impulsively? Avoid them altogether? No judgment. Just awareness. Because awareness is the first step toward mastery.

Would love to hear your thoughts—what’s one way you’ve learned to manage emotions better over time? Let’s talk.

#EmotionalCompetence #SelfAwareness #PsychologyofUs #ProfRJStarr

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Professor RJ Starr, Host of "The Psychology of Us"
Posted 1 month ago

Dear Students and Followers:

Happy New Year! The transition into a new year is more than a passage of time; it is a psychological milestone that beckons reflection, intention, and change. As we step into the uncharted territory of another year, we often carry with us a mix of hope and apprehension. Psychologists have long studied the impact of these temporal markers on human behavior, noting that the new year symbolizes an opportunity to recalibrate our internal compass.

This period invites us to evaluate our lives through the lens of meaning and purpose. It’s a time when we can ask ourselves profound questions: What am I carrying into this year that serves me? What am I holding onto that hinders my growth? These reflections are not merely introspective musings but pivotal exercises in self-awareness and goal-setting.

The human brain thrives on patterns and narratives, and the concept of a ‘new beginning’ provides a framework for reshaping our internal stories. We are not bound by the person we were last year; instead, we can choose to write new chapters, embrace new habits, and foster hope. This capacity to envision and pursue change lies at the heart of our psychological resilience, a trait essential for navigating life’s uncertainties.

As you move forward, consider how the symbolism of the new year can become an anchor for growth—not just a fleeting moment of resolution, but a sustained journey of becoming.

I wish you all a very happy, healthy and abundant 2025!

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