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funmiebolaji-RELATIONSHIP
Posted 11 months ago

How my kitchen was taken away from me in my matrimonial home is still a shock to me. When I was small my mother took her time to teach me how to cook, sometimes she would say "ọlọ́bẹ̀ ló lọkọ," "a good cook is the owner of the husband" so while growing whenever I made any mistake in my cooking, she would scold me by asking if that was what I would be cooking for my husband, then I began to take the cooking tutorial so seriously knowing that it's one of my major tasks in marriage and good marriage is the desire of every woman.

In those days there was a saying that women's education ends in the kitchen, so gradually and intentionally my mother prepared me well for kitchen assignments in order to be able to OWN my husband and to have a successful marriage. I was taught how I should not allow my husband to go out without eating breakfast, I was taught how to cook different meals so he can have varieties, I was also taught how to serve him specially as the king in our palace. Ohh! may God bless all our mothers that know this secret 🙏🏾

As my wedding celebration day was coming closer, my mom kept telling me how much men love good food and how much I should protect my kitchen from intruders, she instructed me never to allow housemaid or friends to cook for my husband.

Before our wedding, I came up with a stomach insurance policy which I told my husband. I said to him that if he wants our marriage to last forever he should make sure he always eats my food no matter what happens. You know what? That policy automatically put me in total control of his stomach and it's still very active till today.

My husband always eats my food whether we are on good terms or not, whether we eat out or not.😆Truly Men love good food ✍🏽

Why this long story? Hmmm! the kitchen that was for only me has suddenly changed to our kitchen, the kitchen that was my personal office has suddenly changed to the general office, to the extent that sometimes when I enter the kitchen I feel like a stranger. Cooking is no longer my personal duty in my marriage, it has become what anybody can do at any time. So, what happened to my cooking tutorials of many years? Does that mean that my generation doesn't believe in my parents' ideology of "ọlọ́bẹ̀ ló lọkọ" or that women's education ends in the kitchen?

The answer is my parents were right but my husband chose to behave differently, he decided to make me very comfortable in our marriage. As a matter of fact he loved cooking for me when we were just two (couple) and now for us that we are five.
Don't get this wrong, he didn't study food and nutrition in school, neither is he a Chef... He just decided to relieve me of that duty anytime he has the chance.

Sometimes he cooked and served me in the bedroom whether sleeping or awake. He consciously turned it into a Hobby. My husband is a very very busy man but still he takes pleasure in making me and the children happy with his culinary skills.

So Why Is My Kitchen now Our Kitchen? Surprisingly our 2 boys have taken after him, they learnt from us so fast and now in a month I may not enter the kitchen at all to cook. They love cooking so much to the extent that they participate in the cooking competitions in church. The beautiful thing about it is My king and our 2 princes can cook any type of meal and soup such as fried rice, amala, akara, eba, moinmoin, white soup, gbegiri etc

Did I become lazy about the kitchen tasks? No, I never take advantage of my husband's kindness, I still embrace cooking as my responsibility till date, while my husband doesn't see cooking as a task but as fun, he doesn't believe tasks in the family belong to specific individuals.

Why am I writing this? I pen down this to let you know that you can comfortably make your marriage work without putting your tradition, friends etc in consideration. Break the yoke of tradition off your neck, free yourself from the fear of what people may say.

Husband please help your wife to look younger than her age by being involved in what is termed her responsibilities.. I Corinthians 7:33 "But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife".

Also wife, please lessen the weight of your husband's responsibilities by being involved, make life easy for him in any capacity you can, 1Corinthians 7:34, "But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband".

So, today I'm celebrating the man that has pleased me so well, my husband, my king, my lord, my friend, my joy I fondly call you IFEMITODUNJULOGAN and I want you to know that you are unique in your world, your kind is not common and as the 2023 is rounding up I want to say THANK YOU for who you are and for making our lives of about 2 decades together so sweet 🙏🏾
I don't just say "I Love You"; I Submit to you.

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